Jul 17, 2012

A-Z------Tips of Stress Mgt

A.      Always take time for yourself, at least 30 minutes per day.
B.      B-Be aware of your own stress meter: Know when to step back and cool down.
C.      C-Concentrate on controlling your own situation, without controlling everybody else.
D.      D-Daily exercise will burn off the stress chemicals.
E.       E- Eat lots of fresh fruit, veggies, bread and water, give your body the best for it to perform at its best.
F.        Forgive others, don't hold grudges and be tolerant -- not everyone is as capable as you..
G.     Gain perspective on things, how important is the issue
H.      Hugs, kisses and laughter: Have fun and don't be afraid to share your feelings with others.
I.        Identify stressors and plan to deal with them better next time..
J.        Judge your own performance realistically; don't set goals out of your own reach.
K.      Keep a positive attitude, your outlook will influence outcomes and the way others treat you.
L.       Limit alcohol, drugs and other stimulants, they affect your perception and behaviour...
M.    Manage money well, seek advice and save at least 10 per cent of what you earn.
N.     No is a word you need to learn to use without feeling guilty.
O.     Outdoor activities by yourself, or with friends and family, can be a great way to relax....
P.      Play your favourite music rather than watching television.
Q.     Quit smoking: It is stressing your body daily, not to mention killing you too.
R.      Relationships: Nurture and enjoy them, learn to listen more and talk less.....
S.       Sleep well, with a firm mattress and a supportive pillow; don't overheat yourself and allow plenty of ventilation.
T.       Treat yourself once a week with a massage, dinner out, the movies: Moderation is the key.
U.     Understand things from the other person's point of view......
V.      Verify information from the source before exploding.
W.    Worry less, it really does not get things completed better or quicker.
X.      Xpress: Make a regular retreat to your favourite space, make holidays part of your yearly plan and budget.......
Y.       Yearly goal setting: Plan what you want to achieve based on your priorities in your career, relationships, etc.
Z.       Zest for life: Each day is a gift, smile and be thankful that you are a part of the bigger picture........
 MAFO likes this and hopes this will help in STRESS MANAGEMENT 

Courtesy: vkaisthaaseem

Positive Thought

An holy man was discussing with God and said: God, I want to know the difference between heaven and hell. Straigh away God took the holy man to a couple of doors. He opened the first one and the holy man looked inside. In the middle of the room was a big round table. On the centre of the table was a big pot and in the pot was a stew that smelled really good. People sitting around the table were skinny and weak. It seem as they were starving. They all had spoons in their hands that had long handles but their hands were tied to their chairs. They were able to get the food out of the pot with the spoon but since the handles were longer than their arms they were unable to get the food into their mouth.
The holy man was surprised by the misery and suffer he saw. God said: now you have seen hell.
Then they went to the second door and God opened it. The holy man looked inside and saw the excactly the same image as he saw in the other room. The big round table with the pot of stew in the centre. The people had the same spoones with the long handle. The difference was that these people were well fed, cheerful, healthy and spoke to each other.
I don`t understand this, the holy man said.
It`s simple, said God.
But it takes one talent. Like you see, these people have learned to feed each other with the long spoons, while the greedy people only think of them selves.
Lets share the spoon! – If you like this articles feel free to share it every where you want – Thank you

Forget the Past and move on....

A wise man once sat in the audience & cracked a joke. All laughed like crazy. After a moment he cracked the same joke again and a little less people laughed this time. He cracked the same joke again & again, When there was no laughter in the crowd, he smiled and said "When u can't laugh at the same joke again & again, then why do u keep crying over the same thing over and over again?'

Forget the past & move on..

Mom and Son

A woman came home from work late, tired and irritated,
to find her 5-year old son waiting for her at the door.

SON: 'Mummy, may I ask you a question?'

MUM: 'Yeah sure, what it is?' replied the woman.

SON: 'Mummy, how much do you make an hour?'

MUM: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the woman said angrily.
SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'

MUM: 'If you must know, I make R 50 an hour.'

SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.

SON: 'Mummy, may I please borrow R25?'

The mother was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.'

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door..

The woman sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy's questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the woman had calmed down , and started to think:

Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that R25.00 and she really didn't ask for money very often.The woman went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door.

'Are you asleep, son?' She asked.

'No Mummy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.

'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the woman. 'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the R25 you asked for.'

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. 'Oh, thank you Mummy!' he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.

The woman saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.

The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his mother.

'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the mother grumbled.

'Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied.

'Mummy, I have R50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.' 

The mother was crushed. She put his arms around her little son, and she begged for his forgiveness. 

It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that R50 worth of your time with someone you love. 
If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily 
replace us in a  matter of hours. But the family friends we leave behind  will feel the loss  for the rest of their lives. 

Jul 5, 2012

Drunkards turn to lizards for a high!

TOI-July 5,2012
AHMEDABAD: Mahesh and Devang, 25, are fast friends. Among other interests, they share a strong liking for intoxicants and highs. A huge chunk of their earnings as factory workers went for alcohol. But, recently, when they ran out of money, they turned to a different kind of intoxicant - one that crawls on our walls: lizards.

The strange addiction of Mahesh and Devang came to light in an even queer manner. Tired of trying to make ends' meet, the duo recently got enrolled in a de-addiction centre in the city - Gujarat Kelavni Trust- and told a strange tale - before joining the de-addiction centre they had hit on this unique way to get a high. Each night they would pluck lizards from walls and eat them for a high. However, after getting enrolled in the centre, they could not follow this routine and this was causing mood swings and sometimes even violent temper.

Programme coordinator Shraddha Roy said: "This is the first time that our centre has got lizard addicts. Whether this practice can actually give a high is a subject of investigation. However, addicts who are used to alcohol or chemical drugs often take to such methods when they are low on finance."


Jul 2, 2012


Addiction is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance (alcohol, cocaine, nicotine) or engages in an activity (gambling) that can be pleasurable but the continued use of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary life responsibilities, such as work or relationships, even health. Users may not be aware that their behavior is out of control and causing problems for themselves and others.

When a person is addicted to something they cannot control how they use it, and become dependent on it to cope with daily life.

A habit may eventually develop into an addiction.Many of us can use substances or become engaged in activities without any significant problems. Some people, however, may experience damaging psychological and/or physical effects when their habit becomes an addiction.

What is the difference between a habit and an addiction?

Addiction - there is a psychological/physical component; the person is unable to control the aspects of the addiction without help because of the mental or physical conditions involved.

Habit - it is done by choice. The person with the habit can choose to stop, and will subsequently stop successfully if they want to. The psychological/physical component is not an issue as it is with an addiction.

Put simply - with a habit you are in control of your choices, with an addiction you are not in control of your choices. Addiction to substances or activities can sometimes lead to serious problems at home, work, school and socially.Addiction to substances or activities can sometimes lead to serious problems at home, work, school and socially.

The causes of addiction vary considerably, and are not often fully understood. They are generally caused by a combination of physical, mental, circumstantial and emotional factors.

Addiction, often referred to as dependency often leads to tolerance - the addicted person needs larger and more regular amounts of whatever they are addicted to in order to receive the same effect. Often, the initial reward is no longer felt, and the addiction continues because withdrawal is so unpleasant.

Most addictive behavior is not related to either physical tolerance or exposure to cues. People compulsively use drugs, or gamble or shop, nearly always in reaction to being emotionally stressed, whether or not they have a physical addiction. Since these psychologically based addictions are not based on drug or brain effects, they can account for why people frequently switch addictive actions from one drug to a completely different kind of drug, or even to a non-drug behavior. The focus of the addiction isn't what matters; it's the need to take action under certain kinds of stress. To treat this kind of addiction requires understanding of how it works psychologically.
I totally agree that Addiction is not a habit it is an illness. We need to acknowledge that this is a health issue and start taking help for this. There is a lot to be done and I really thank God that I am saved from this menace of society but pray for all the family members affected by this